Rants From a Tired Yoruba Girl


                    According to the dictionary app on my phone, tradition is an inherited pattern of thought or action. I’m using this medium to complain about these traditions which I basically do not find plausible. Keep in mind that this post is in no way about being woke, I don’t think I’ve ever used that word before now.

I had this friend who whenever she visited me would go down on her two knees to greet my parents which is commendable. And there’s my Dad who suddenly decided that I should emulate her greeting style. Her parents probably raised her that way but he didn’t. He didn’t raise me to kneel down to greet my elders so why would he expect me to start now? I don’t get it.

My little brother also had this babysitter at a time, who would complain bitterly about how I bow my head in greeting instead of kneeling down to greet her properly. If you know me, I think you are aware of how stubborn I am.

My mum says when she was a child, she would hold a bowl of water so her Dad could wash his hands in it after eating. She would stand there holding the bowl while he washed his hands. Why would I do that when I could just place the bowl on the table or he could wash his hands at the sink?

There’s also Mummy Cynthia who insists that my sister call her Mummy ( if you’re Nigerian, you’d know there are different ways of pronouncing Mummy, one for your Mum and one for other elderly women) rather than Mummy Cynthia apparently because Cynthia is not my sister’s age mate. Like seriously? This one is just funny to me to be honest. She says calling her Mummy Cynthia is disrespectful because Cynthia is much older than my sister. Lol.

Likewise, if children younger than I am call me Anjola, which is my name obviously, people around me will correct them saying they should call me Sister Anjola or Aunty Anjola instead. But do I care ? Absolutely not. Anjola is my name so call me by my name. These things are just irrelevant to me.

Lest I forget, there’s the left hand issue. Using your left hand to give items to your elders is disrespectful. This one was drummed into my head right from childhood and it has become a habit but on the days when I forget or unconsciously use the left hand, the scolding that accompanies such error is totally not worth it.

Why do the older generation place undue importance on such trivial things?

What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments section.

19 Comments Add yours

  1. Everything in a society, or element of a society that as not forgotten, is based on respect… which places a high premium on one’s position in the collective… when one’s position is taken for granted, respect goes out the window, and the society begins to fall apart…

    It is the older generation, the record keepers of the society, who are the first to notice the breakdown… due to what the youths call — trivial things…
    🇯🇲🏖️

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    1. Jola says:

      So in essence you’re saying these things are not actually trivial?

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      1. Your ability to wade through the incidentals, and pinpoint the crux of the matter is commendable… this is what it is hoped, everyone, not just the elderly would emulate… thus, anything that disrupts, can never be considered… trivial…
        🇯🇲🏖️

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      2. Jola says:

        Well said

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  2. Nifemi🥰 says:

    It’s not trial because all these things are expected to.be impacted in us since we were little and it’s always kind of compulsory to abide by it

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      1. Nifemi🥰 says:

        Well.. That’s customs and traditions for you sha

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  3. SamSahana says:

    This is not just a rant, but an intriguing rant! A deep, profound rant 😂
    Apart from the kneeling down, EVERY single one you mentioned (left hand, aunty or sister, etc..) is practiced in India too! I’m stunned to see the cultural similarities between a subcontinent in the east and a country that’s an entire continent away! I got so used to them that I don’t question them, but I always instruct kids to cAll me by my name. I “feel” too young to be called aunty 😂
    Traditions, in general, are important so we don’t let our ancestors’ practices die. The caveman principal. We always hold on to the instinct of our caveman ancestors, or in this case, our not-so distant human ancestors. 😉
    In your case, most of what you stated seem to be cultural practices than traditions.
    Again, an intriguing post! 👌

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    1. Jola says:

      Wow, i wasnt aware if the similarities before now. I also feel too young to be called aunty. I don’t see the point in holding on too such traditions though. Thanks for reading Sam and informing me about how WordPress deals with the comments. I had no idea😅

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      1. SamSahana says:

        If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you? I’m gen Z too, so I guess we might be in a somewhat similar range. 🙂

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      2. Jola says:

        I’ll email you soon

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  4. SamSahana says:

    Looks like my comment went into spam 🙂

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    1. Jola says:

      It’s been approved now 🙂

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      1. SamSahana says:

        Thanks! 😉

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      2. Jola says:

        😁✨

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  5. The energy they should have used for other important things like our shitty government before it got out of hand is used to fuss about greeting and what not

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    1. Jola says:

      You hit the nail on the head 🙌🙌

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  6. This was interesting for me to read and learn about another cultural tradition.

    I can’t speak to this particular example you cited around the etiquette of greetings (fascinating to read about though!). But I do think that when people talk about etiquette as though it is an established general norm, etiquette is more context-specific than people appreciate. Over time, context can change, so it could be that decades from now, the culture around greetings could change.

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    1. Jola says:

      I’m glad you found it fascinating! I believe that our generation and the subsequent ones will bring about the change. Thanks for taking the time to read ✨

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